Do you use the cane to discipline your kids?

by VJeyaa Tue Sep 09, 2008 11:47 pm

This is a highly debatable subject as there are some parents who insist that using the cane is a big NO-NO while others are convinced the usefulness of the cane to bring up their child in a disciplined manner. What is your take on this, and why do you take such a stand?

by aPPLe Tue Sep 16, 2008 6:42 am

cane ah..?? Shocked

n0 way..

by mirugam Tue Sep 16, 2008 7:34 am

i have a cane at home. Being a parent, i do resort to a cane once in a while but very rarely. I try to avoid using cane most of the time.

Why?

I remember my childhood when cane was used liberally and i dislike those moments. I always feel belittled and not appreaciated by whoever using it to cane me mercilessly. I hate those moments and hated the person who used the cane on me for at least a few days.

Now, i refrain from using it on my precious babies but i do use it if their behaving is clearly unaceptable and i make sure they know why i use the most offending cane on them. Suspect

In a nut shell, i hate using cane on my babies since i know the pain it may inflict on and in them.

by suja@15 Tue Sep 16, 2008 10:42 am

I see no harm in caning a child if his/her behaviour is totally unacceptable. But of course caning shud NOT be the guideline to control a child's behaviour. Kids nowadays r totally different compared to us when we were young. The present children grow up fast and think on their toes. The influence of tv, friends and school is enuf for them to absorb all.... and we being parents tend to go soft on them since they r our own..... and the kids use tat against us. Honestly, i use the cane on my nephews as a threatening method..... quite effective. And u shud not do it too often coz if not they'll b immune to it.

by Kon_Roy Tue Sep 16, 2008 2:13 pm

suja@15 wrote:and u shud not do it too often coz if not they'll b immune to it.

haha...true...true... lol!

cane is the ultimate weapon tht strikes fear for the little ones...use it wisely...

by VJeyaa Tue Sep 16, 2008 2:44 pm

anyone heard the old adage.... "addiyathe madde, paddiyathe..."

by mirugam Tue Sep 16, 2008 3:07 pm

yeah.....there are a few...

Adi malla adi adicha...ammiyum nagarum....

Adi othuvara mathiri ,Anna thambi kuda othuva mathan..

by VJeyaa Tue Sep 16, 2008 3:25 pm

yeah... there is a reason why the old and wise perusus came up with these sayings. Its not for nothing you know. Its what they have personally experienced in their own lives and then having passed on their knowledge and wisdom down the generations and ended up being quotes as idioms or adages. Respect the wisdom of the wise. It can save you the heartaches, sorrows and disappointments in life. farao

by mirugam Tue Sep 16, 2008 4:54 pm

yeah....vj...i agree with you but not all their advices are applicable now.

My way is very effective for my children. The moment i take the cane, they know that i'm very serious and their offend is not acceptable at all. Most of the time they never repeat.

Caning our children and nagging them frequently would make them immune to the punishment in a long run. Apart from that, you'll produce individuals with low self-esteem.

by purple matrix Wed Sep 17, 2008 12:28 am

i m still single n available.if i hv kidz in da future,i ll not cane them.use luv 2 displine our kidz.how?

by mirugam Wed Sep 17, 2008 1:01 am

Thats impossible purple....you need to spank them from time to time....too much of love would spoil the child...ha ha ha

Be a parent....you'll know

by blackmafia25 Wed Sep 17, 2008 10:07 pm

i am still single....but it is kinda challenging to have kids around....but hey it takes hardwork and patience to develop kids....

need to use the cane whenever needed not all the time....love must be tried to bring the kids to our way if no then cane will do the trick

my humble opinion Cool